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The truth was, though, that he would go days and days without reaching out. In the end, the fact that he didn’t text was the perfect indicator of his inability or unwillingness to attempt to forge a real relationship with me.When I reflect on my dating history over the past 4 1/2 years, I see this distinct pattern: If I don’t hear from a guy for more than 48 hours, it’s either already over (he’s actually going to ghost me entirely) or it’s simply a matter of time before it dies out. If you are feeling really crazy, you might even opt for “I really enjoyed hanging out with/meeting you/our date/our conversation, would you like to hang out again? If you can’t send some simple texts within 48 hours, then either (1) You aren’t into me, (2) You are indifferent about any semblance of a relationship with anyone, (3) You are willing to have a sort-of-relationship with me as long as I do all the work, or (3) Your communication skills need work.As long as I ask them out, send texts, and make plans, they will show up or respond. I’m working on doing less in relationships to see if guys will step up. But I will keep trying to find someone who is interested in meeting me half way and being an equal.(4) Look, if you are into someone or trying to figure out if you might be into someone, you need to communicate. Maybe you don’t have the emotional bandwidth to put yourself out there. What kind of communication is that person looking for?[Read: 8 romantic gestures from the olden days all girls miss] #2 Don’t text when you’re drunk.
The same can be said after dates, although it is also completely acceptable for women to text the guy with a “thank you for last night” or “I had a great time yesterday” to initiate a conversation.
Sadly, so far my results have mostly gone one way: Nope. How much are you willing to stretch yourself and your comfort level for this new person, this new relationship?
When I was home this summer, I spoke with three different friends in three different relationships.
It’s shocking how many guys I meet in Austin who fall in this catagory. You are being stubborn and distant by refusing to text someone to check in. If you are part of catagories (3) or (4), I hope that you will reconsider your reasons for taking your approach. Maybe you are shy or really independent, then you need to be very honest with yourself and your new person.
In a new (or new-ish) relationship, not receiving a text from someone for longer than 48 hours has proven 100% of the time to be an indicator that we are not going to move forward.48 hours is the magic window. But I’ll be direct about that.)(3) This is a very selfish arrangement. If you want me to tell you that you should “do you,” I’m not going to. It’s you being lazy or fearful or indifferent or all of the above. But having the expectation that the person you are exploring a relationship with have the wherewithal to text once or twice a day (or at least every other day) does not make me or anyone else needy, clingy, or unreasonable.