I want to stop accommodating him
For one thing, we were making things worse for Dan in the moment, by creating more anxiety for him.This is a tough thing for a parent to do, even when you know “it’s for the best.” Additionally, it was often hard to know whether we were, in fact, accommodating him in any given situation.While we may help reduce our loved one’s anxiety in the short-term, we are, in the long-term, prolonging the vicious cycle of OCD.
Did the bookstore that was farther from our house really have a better selection, or was his OCD in control?
Parenting for me has often involved following my instincts and using good common sense.
Whether it was telling my fifteen year old daughter that she could not go to the co-ed sleepover, or encouraging my shy child to invite a friend over, I seemed to have a pretty good handle on things.
He and I met with the Academic Services Coordinator at his college, and now all of a sudden, “accommodation” became our friend, not foe.
Sure, if Dan’s OCD prevented him from using his computer, his professors would provide printouts for him. As I said before, OCD is an insidious disorder, and the path to recovery is not always clear.