Dating your friends ex husband

"My friend had a one night stand with my ex a few years after we broke up and I was fine with it, because I’m in the camp that what’s past is past.Once you break up, there’s no territory to claim," says the very chill Sunny W.“Most people are highly uncomfortable with these situations, so it’s best to look for love somewhere else,” she adds.Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.But hang back if she’s still single and mopey about the situation, or the wounds haven’t healed.“If your friend isn’t over it and is still actively requiring your support, it’s not very ethical to go in," says Dr. In the world of Bumble and Tinder, relationships move fast." If the breakup was amicable and now she’s happily married to another guy with three kids, a good friend would want the same happiness for you—even if it’s with someone she used to sleep with.

(Although if he ghosted her, which is how most of these things end, don’t be surprised if she’s not thrilled he wants to take you out.) Super short ‘relationships’ (under a month) shouldn’t throw a guy into that off-limits territory.It’s not fun or foolproof, but it'll be so much better for her than catching a glimpse of you two together on social media. That’s a cowardly move—an honest conversation can save a relationship,” says Engler.(Even if you’re just giving her a head’s up, and not asking for permission, a frank chat beats hiding it.) "I dated a friend’s ex once and it was the worst thing I’ve ever done for this reason: we kept it a secret and we shouldn’t have.“It’s ok to move in if they are estranged and no longer in love and divorcing,” says matchmaker Marla Martenson. It could be right under your nose, and circumstances have to shift for things to evolve.” As Martenson points out, “It’s a delicate situation, but why let a potential love match get away?If it’s a great match, it’s a great match.” Still, it’s best to proceed with caution.

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