Dating a woman 20 years older
In Cairo, I resurrected the bold, adventurous woman I'd been two decades earlier, before I'd yielded to the pressures and should-dos of grown-up life.I'd met my former husband in the then-Soviet Moscow, where I'd moved from Paris in search of a job in journalism. In Cairo — I was working on a book about Egypt, so moving there seemed the logical choice — I found strange comfort in the upheaval.You may need to start skipping the traditional Thursday through Sunday bar scene with the girls to appease his lifestyle.While this may seem like a much-needed break, there is potential for you to end up at a home-dinner party socializing with a group that may tell you about their son or daughter that is “just about your age.” Awkward. Dating someone 20 to 30 years older than you means you’re probably going to see time take its toll in many ways.He was a Tunisian journalist coming to Cairo to start a new job, and he wanted my advice about neighborhoods and rents. A few days after he arrived, he asked if I'd like to get together. In the meantime, I checked out his Facebook profile and realized that he was much younger than me.Based on the scant information I saw, I couldn't devise any calculation that would get him out of his 20s.I didn't want to get into another serious relationship any time soon. As if anything in my life had gone according to plan…
And despite the age difference and the fact that we disagreed on everything from movies to ideal vacation spots, I felt the same way.
Living this period of his life with him gives me the sensation of reliving mine.
Only this time around, I'm a better version of myself.
As a younger, or transitioning individual, this stability may be exactly what you need. You can be sure that he won’t play games like millennials, since he’s past his prime player years. Mature men have refined tastes, and that isn’t limited to his pallet. Advice and wisdom will be readily available from someone who isn’t your parent, but is equally wise.
He can show you things you never knew possible, and you can teach him that new trick you learned in Cosmo. You won’t be dealing with the same texting, mixed signal bullshit that you’ve experienced in the past.